The Black Pancake

Today is Mother’s Day and it got me thinking about the Black Pancake.

Now, we should all appreciate our mother’s every day, but today gives you an excuse to completely show your gratitude. This doesn’t mean you have to spend millions…you actually don’t need to spend anything at all. Just sit  her down and tell her why you love her.

The definition of mother is a woman in relation to a child or children to whom she has given birth, but we all know being a mother means a lot more. If you’ve ever made pancakes for breakfast, you know exactly what the Black Pancake is. It’s the tester pancake that wasn’t quite right.
Now…think back…wayyyy back to when you were a kid; Ever see your mother eating that Black Pancake? I did. And that one, yucky Black Pancake, pretty much sums up how much your mother loves you and how she’ll do anything for you.

Some people have had to raise themselves…making their own metaphorical pancakes. In this circumstance, the definition of mother is as basic as the definition says. The mother, only defined by the definition, doesn’t get over the top appreciation, even on Mother’s Day. This is because this mother has given you nothing to be appreciative for besides giving birth (like the definition says). And although I KNOW that’s a huge deal…but just like with any other relationship you have with anyone else…if you’ve been mistreated, then you’ve been given no reason to celebrate.

So my hat is off to my mother…the mother who has mothered myself and my husband. I appreciate all she’s done to simply make our lives easier. She is both my friend and protector and has always gone beyond the definition. I am blessed.

1 Timothy 5:8 If anyone does not provide for his relatives, and especially for his immediate family, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever.

Live and let live

More often than not, I find myself caring a little too much about the people close to me. I’m extremely ethnocentric in a way where I feel like what I think someone should be doing is the best, and only, thing to do.

It pains me to see the people who are close to me not doing all they possibly can with life. This is especially the case when doing more can help the ones they love. But speaking of not doing all someone possibly can, I know my mother really wants me to finish college.

School has never been for me, and maybe working a steady job, saving money, not abusing alcohol, or birth control isn’t for everyone. I’m just overly grateful that my husband works hard so that I’m taken care of. He works hard to make sure there’s money to pay the bills, for food, and to make sure we have all types of insurance in case anything happens.

To live and let live has proven to be difficult. I’m slowly, but surely, learning to just not stick my nose up when someone is doing something, or not doing something, I don’t approve of. I mean…who am I to even have an opinion!

With a yawn and a growl…things have to change.

My eating habits are so out of whack. I blame it on my sleeping pattern, that is also completely crazy!
It’s 4am and I’m awake!! Wide awake! And honestly, I don’t think my hour long nap during the Laker game is to blame!

I’ll be up and out by 10am, because of the errands I have to get done before everyone gets off work and crowds the malls and grocery store. As soon as I get up I’ll shower, get dressed, then probably leave the house without eating. Then I’ll be so busy running around that I’ll probably forget to eat. Then when I get home around 3, probably with a major headache that I’ll probably blame on traffic, I’ll probably finally eat something. It’s probably a horrible way to treat myself…but I’ll probably do it anyway!

Yesterday I ate chicken and rice around noon then forced myself to have a Slim Fast around 9pm because I knew I needed the calories but I wasn’t hungry. Then around 2am, as I’m laying in bed WIDE AWAKE from my husband’s snoring, I decide I want cereal.

This really has to end! I’ll be starting a 14 day cleanse tomorrow (or sooner rather than later) that has a strict diet. Maybe that’ll help me. I’ll be documenting how I feel throughout the whole thing.

For now I just feel like a zombie! I feel drained and not for any good reason.

Planned pregnancy and me, I mean US

When I mentioned to the doctor that we are going to start trying to conceive, the first thing she asked was if I started taking prenatal vitamins. She informed us that when a couple decides to start TTC, the woman should start taking prenatal vitamins 4 months prior!! I never got that information from any of my friends with children, but then I realized I don’t really know anyone that had planned a pregnancy.

When planning, failure to conceive brings stress, especially when you’re openly trying or recently married. Some will ask when you’ll have kids and others will encourage you to wait. Either way, it’s awkward.

Every relationship is different. People are in different places in life. When planning it’s easier to make sure you’ve budgeted as best as possible to welcome another human into the household.

I know one person is never 100% prepared to make the step, but I feel as if we’ve tried our best to take certain precautions. For example…the coffee table I bought a few months ago is completely rounded. Now, at the time I got it because I loved it…but swear in the not so far back of my mind, I was thinking about the future.

So for now I’ll continue taking my vitamins. And since I’m taking them, my husband is taking his One-a-day’s every night as well! A couple that vitamins together, stays together…and lets pray, has healthy babies together.

What will be, will be.

5/9 Weekly Favorites

This week (5/9/12) I want to introduce:

These acrylic drawers are amazing for storage!! My old makeup drawers were plastic and these are much sturdier! I found them on one of my many adventures to the Container Store (which in itself is one of “My Favorites”)! One drawer is $17.99 and can be found in store.  There’s one opening in El Segundo, off Rosecrans and Sepulveda, around mid June!

My Philips Sonicare Toothbrush makes me happy every day! My dentist strongly recommended the brand. There’s a “QuadPacer timer” that’s set so you can focus on each section of your mouth for 30 seconds.
I started off with a basic model, the e5300, that costs $39.99 and the replacement heads are $32 for two. The model pictured below is the Sonicare HealthyWhite for $109.99 regularly, but I often see it on BestBuy.com for $79.99. The replacement heads are around $27 for two.
It’s recommended, like a manual toothbrush, to change the head every 3 months. I actually change mine every 2 months. Costco has larger packs of replacements for a lot less but I have to check the price and update the post later.

To save money, I try to straighten my own hair as much as possible. Carol’s Daughter’s Macadamia Heat Protection products have made doing my own hair look professional. I’ve given the series as a gift to my best friend Dominique and she loves it too!
This 3-part system is no longer available as a value set BUT they’ve added their Heat Setting Foam (that I haven’t tried) to the set available at Sephora.com for $45, which is what I paid for the 3-part set over a year ago and is a $67 value. I don’t think I’ll be trying the Foam anytime soon because my 3-part system isn’t anywhere near empty.
The key is to not use too much! After washing my hair, I apply 3 pumps of the Heat Protection Gloss ($18) and let my hair air-dry.  After a quick blow out, because I try to use the least amount of heat possible, I flat iron my hair. I spray a soft bristle brush with the Weightless Shine Mist ($18) once and brush my hair to calm whatever frizz I have. The Hold & Control Smoother ($22) is great for smoothing wild edges! It gives an effortless look that doesn’t come off like you’ve used gel.

Photography and me

Photography grabbed my attention in high school. I was always a little more serious about it then most of the kids looking to get an easy passing grade at Culver High. Learning the settings on a 35mm Film SLR, how to develop the negatives, and how to develop the images was a lot of fun.

Now, newer technology makes photography a little easier. My DSLR is easily my favorite toy! I know I should take a class…but I’m totally into the whole “learning on the job” process.
Because I refuse to take a class, I will NEVER call myself a professional. I refuse to take that title away from the people who’ve put in the time to master the craft! But this is my favorite hobby!!

Check out a few of my favorite shots!

Dominique & Isaac

Mistah Redd

N.J.M.

Maxx Mille


Mother’s Day Gift Ideas

Mother’s Day is coming up and here are 3 gifts you can get for the mother’s in your life for under $30!

Spa Finder gift certificates are always a great idea! They can be purchased on their website in increments of $25, OR at Costco.com for $79.99 to spend $100 (which is what I do). Spa Finders aren’t accepted everywhere, so for a list of places accepted, please visit SpaFinder.com!

(Picture taken from Costco.com)

For all the curly moms out there, I recommend Tui Moisturizing Oil. The sweet, tropical scent is amazing! It moisturizes your hair without leaving it greasy or weighing it down! To find out if Tui Oil is for you, the 2oz bottle is available for $10, and if you’re willing to take the chance, the 8oz bottle is $18. Both options can be purchased on CarolsDaughter.com!

(Picture taken from CarolsDaughter.com)

Lancôme eye makeup remover is a guilty pleasure luxury! My mother has been using it for decades and it’s something she’s passed down to me! The $27 price tag may seem hefty, but you’re paying for quality! Using a cotton rounder, apply a small amount and you’ll notice your eye makeup, even waterproof makeup, coming off with ease without the greasy feeling. I recommend buying it from Sephora.com to get the Beauty Insider Points.

Cheaper to stay at home

Yup, we did the math…and the solution is that it will be cheaper for me to stay at home.

When we were planning to buy our house, we made sure to budget solely based on my husband’s income because we knew we’d want to try having a baby sooner rather than later.

After doing very simple math, with only the cost of childcare, it really wouldn’t be cost effective if I started working. The amount of money I’d be bringing in wouldn’t really make a huge difference to compensate my time spent away from the house.

The only thing I’ve ever known I wanted to do with my life is be a mother and a wife. Being a Housewife is the only career I’ve ever wanted. I know there’s a lot of women who have children then want to return to their careers that they’ve worked hard to achieve, and I commend that! There are so many important people in this world who are mothers that can do it all! It’s just simply our choice for me to stay home and luckily I can.

Brown hair, do care *Lil Wayne voice*

One of the quickest things you can do to switch up your look is color your hair. Going to Target and spending $10 on a box of color can make you look and feel like a whole new person!

But no matter how good the companies say coloring is for your hair…not putting a chemical in it is even better. I haven’t colored my hair in over a year and my curls are coming back! My ends, however, are really straight!

I fight the good fight with the hair coloring aisle daily! Anytime I’m reaching to pick up a box, my husband reminds me that I’ve said I shouldn’t do it. I have a feeling it won’t be to hard to avoid coloring my hair now though…because when you’re trying to conceive, you try to avoid things that might be harmful to the baby if you can :)

Cherished memories aren’t cheating

I like to think of myself as a decent person. The people I care for and love can tell you that I really just want the world for every one of them.

This quality has proposed a problem in my head. I say this because I haven’t had many break ups that ended badly. With that being said, I’m still in contact with the majority of the people I’ve dated. With social medias and me having the same phone number since I was 18, it’s easy to K.I.T. with me.

Most importantly, they all know my marital status and have, what I believe to be sincere, congratulated me on my happiness, but there were a few times where I felt guilty for speaking with them.

Honestly, I’ve been broken down on memory lane a few times…reminiscing about days filled with laughter and pivotal moments that molded me into who I am today. Each time I found myself immediately questioning if it was alright for me to be able to smile at these cherished memories.

Over lunch at CPK with my besties, Dominique and Christina, I explained what I had been feeling. I was a newlywed thinking that having these thoughts were a form of cheating. They assured me that it’s ok for me to have my happy memories and that I had a whole other life before I re-met my husband.

I’m a firm believer that members of the opposite sex can be friends…even if they’ve had a romantic past. Harmless conversations, as long as they stay that way, are just that…harmless.